Social Visits (Including Overnight Stays with Friends)


This policy and procedure applies to social visits and overnight stays with friends for  Children Looked After  placed in foster homes.

For the procedure relating to contact with family members and those with parental responsibility see: Contact with Parents/Adults and Siblings Procedure.


National Minimum Standard 9 (Fostering Services) - Promoting and Supporting Contact


Policy for Delegation of Authority to Foster Carers and Residential Workers Procedure

Foster Carer's Delegated Authority – Decision Support Tool

Holidays and School Trips In and Outside the UK Procedure

1. Introduction

Looked after children say that problems obtaining parents' and local authorities' consent to everyday activities can make them feel different from their peers, causing them embarrassment and upset. It is therefore very important to agree upfront who can make which decisions about a looked after child, and that this is understood by all key parties and reviewed regularly.

The Children Act 1989 Guidance and Regulations - Volume 4: Fostering Services.

Decisions on social visits and overnight stays should normally be delegated to foster carers (or residential care staff for children who are placed in residential care homes). The arrangements for such decisions should be written into the Placement Plan in line with the Care Plan taking account of any relevant court directives.

When a child's placement is first made, information regarding significant relationships and friendships should be obtained and recorded in the Placement Plan. This information should be reviewed as appropriate throughout their placement.

The parents' views on social visits and overnight stays with friends should also be obtained. For procedures on Parental Consent, see Section 3, Parental Consent.

The Placement Plan should include the parameters within which visits or stays away from the home with friends may be agreed by the foster carer without prior consultation with the social worker, and whether agreement to such visits requires the foster carer to obtain parental consent. The Plan may state that the social worker and/or parent must always be consulted.

However, the guiding principle is that Children Looked After should, as far as possible, be given the same permission to take part in normal and acceptable age appropriate activities, such as staying with friends, as would reasonably be granted by the parents of their peers. Judgment will always depend on the assessed risks to and needs of the child, but it is preferable for parents to delegate authority for making day to day decisions to foster carers. See also Policy for Delegation of Authority to Foster Carers and Residential Workers Procedure.

2. Social Visits/Overnight Stays

The delegation of authority to approve a child making social visits to friends should be set out in writing the Placement Plan which must be consistent with the child's Care Plan. The arrangements must also be consistent with any Contact Orders in force in favour of relatives and/or friends.

Overnight stays with friends are a regular part of most children/young people's experience and often occur at short notice. It is neither practicable nor desirable to carry out police and other formal checks on the adults resident in the friend's household, unless of course there are particular reasons for concern.

Although agency checks are not normally required as a precondition of a child staying overnight with friends, in circumstances where it is considered necessary as a result of specific risks identified in the risk assessment, or where the child is to stay with adults regularly or frequently or for a prolonged period, checks on members of the relevant household should be made through the Disclosure and Barring Service, the Children's Services and Probation records for the relevant area.

Where there are exceptional reasons to require carers to seek the permission of the social worker, a manager or a parent, or place specific restrictions on permitting a child to stay overnight with friends, this should only be because of reasons necessary to safeguard the child's welfare. The child's wishes should be taken into account in reaching any such decision.

Any such restriction, together with the reasons, should be clearly recorded in the Placement Plan, and explained to the child where appropriate. Restrictions should be reviewed regularly to ensure they remain relevant

In the majority of cases, it will be sensible for decision making about sleepovers to be delegated to the child/young person's foster carer who will be best placed to know or find out about the friend and monitor the frequency of sleepover visits.

When a foster carer is  considering a request from a child to stay overnight with a friend they should base their decision on the following factors:
  1. Are there any relevant restrictions in the child's Placement Plan?
  2. Are there any factors in the child's past experiences or behaviour to preclude overnight stays?
  3. Are there any grounds for concern that the child may be at significant risk in the household concerned or from the activities proposed?
  4. Is the child staying with another child or children, rather than staying solely with an adult?
  5. The age and level of understanding of the child;
  6. What is the purpose and length of the overnight stay?
  7. Whose idea was the overnight stay?
  8. How well is the friend or family known to the child?

Where the foster carer proposes to agree to the child's staying away, before allowing this, certain enquiries must be made; for example the foster carer should make sure they know the name of the adult who will be responsible for the child, can contact the adult and the child during the visit/stay and are clear as to the arrangements for the child's return. There should also be clarity about the sleeping arrangements and what the arrangements are.

Prior to the child staying away, the carer should arrange to meet the adult who will have responsibility for the child unless they are already known in which case the prior arrangements can be made over the telephone.

The arrangements for supervising or caring for the child must not compromise the safety of the child or that of any one else; and the following considerations should apply:
  1. Have the arrangements been confirmed with the parent of the friend or the adult who will have responsibility during the visit?
  2. What are the arrangements for the child returning to the home?
  3. Is there a contact number for the household in which the child will stay?
  4. Is the child aware of what to do if they want to return to the home earlier than planned?
  5. Does the child have a contact number for the carers where they can be reached at any time?
  6. Does the child have access to a mobile phone?

In all cases, discussions should be held with the child, dependent on their age and level of understanding, as to what, if any, information should be shared with other adults to enable them to look after the child appropriately.

This might include:

  • Any specific health care needs of the child;
  • Any established routines for the child;
  • Any behaviour management problems which, if the adult is unaware of, could lead to difficulties during the visit.

Any decision to share information should be on a 'need to know' basis and recorded.

If the child refuses to allow appropriate information to be shared, then they should be made aware that this could affect the decision to allow the stay away from home.

If  the foster carer is satisfied that it is appropriate to allow the child to stay away, a decision to allow it to go ahead may be made.

The decision and the arrangements agreed should be recorded in full in the child's Daily Record.

Even if it has been agreed that the social worker does not have to be consulted in making these arrangements, they should be informed as soon as practicable afterwards (within 1 working day) and the social worker should inform the parents as appropriate.

With older teenagers, there may be a greater risk to their safety and wellbeing as they explore and test greater levels of independence. This applies to young people living at home as well as to those who are looked after by a local authority and it is inevitable that in some cases, despite the care taken, things will go wrong.

It is the intention of this procedure to protect children and young people and to carry out our duty as reasonable and responsible parents. It is also intended to enable carers and social workers to demonstrate that if something goes wrong, they have taken all reasonable precautions to protect the child and young person.

3. Parental Consent

Wherever possible, parents' views and consent to contact with relatives and friends including any overnight stays away from the home should be obtained by the social worker at the time of the placement.

These views should be recorded including an indication of whether the parent wishes to be notified or their consent obtained every time an overnight stay takes place and if so, whether such consultation and prior consent is required before the contact can go ahead. Preferably, parents should delegate this authority in writing to foster carers. It should also be clearly recorded if parents do not consent to any continuing relationships or short stays away from the home, and the reasons for their lack of consent should be obtained.

If it is considered that contact is appropriate despite the parents' views, legal advice may be required and any decision to allow such contact needs to be clearly recorded together with reasons and explained to the parents.